Stop acting
so wounded.
The only person
that can pick you up,
push back your shoulders,
wipe the tears,
mend the broken bones
and get you out of your slump
is you.
Now go and live,
there is so much to be
happy about.

"Things I tell myself when I feel as though the world is too big for me" - e.m.f.p  (via tvlerposey)

Ignore those that make you fearful and sad, that degrade you back towards disease and death.

Rumi

anatomy-of-recovery:

screww-youu:

anatomy-of-recovery:

apriletenicolette:

Hahaha yes.

This is not only untrue, it’s gross and shame-y.
Your vagina is soft tissue and muscle, and it’s tightness is not determined by your skeletal structure. There is a muscle called the pubococcygeus muscle, which is like a hammock that goes from your PUBIC BONE to your TAILBONE. This means that the muscle goes front to back, not from hip to hip. The width of your pelvis is not involved in the equation. At all. ALSO, some people’s thighs might touch due to musculature or weight distribution instead of pelvic structure. Some people will never have a thigh gap due to their pelvic structure.  There is a ton of variation in HOW PEOPLE HAVE BODIES.
While we’re here, let’s talk about tight vaginas!
There are lots of different ways to have a vagina. Some people have tightness that results in pain and spasmed muscles for a variety of reasons. This can be extremely painful and causes some people a lot of trauma. Many people have their vaginas become more accommodating as their arousal level increases, so increasing “looseness” is often a sign that you’re turning a vagina owner on. Some people increase the strength of their pelvic floor muscles through kegel exercises so that they can squeeze with their vaginas when they want to, as well as increasing their control over orgasm and urinary continence.  Vaginas are incredibly powerful and can stretch and constrict in amazing ways.
If your partner says that you’re “too loose” or otherwise shames your vagina, get rid of them.
Your vagina is amazing. Your thighs are amazing.
They are amazing if they touch and amazing if they don’t touch. Also, not all people with vaginas are girls and not all girls have vaginas.
Fuck misinformation and body shame in all forms.  Shaming one type of body is no better than shaming another type of body.

Why do people take a post thats suppose to help girls without thigh gaps feel better and ruin it?

Because you shouldn’t have to shame people about their vaginas to make girls without thigh gaps feel good. This especially applies in a culture steeped in sexual shame which refuses to talk openly about vaginas and vulvas.
We should own every opportunity to tell people with vaginas the truth about their vaginas because we have been lied to enough.
As I said, thighs are wonderful, without gaps and with. When we shame any sort of body, we perpetuate the idea that bodies should be shameful for their characteristics at all. Your thighs are amazing and your body is amazing.
Putting down other people to make yourself feel better isn’t body positivity; it’s bullying. How is telling someone with a thigh gap that they have a “loose vagina” with misinformation going to add positivity to your life? (Not to mention all the facts about vaginal “looseness” in general)I absolutely believe that thigh gaps should be inconsequential, but this isn’t how to make positive change.

anatomy-of-recovery:

screww-youu:

anatomy-of-recovery:

apriletenicolette:

Hahaha yes.

This is not only untrue, it’s gross and shame-y.


Your vagina is soft tissue and muscle, and it’s tightness is not determined by your skeletal structure. There is a muscle called the pubococcygeus muscle, which is like a hammock that goes from your PUBIC BONE to your TAILBONE. This means that the muscle goes front to back, not from hip to hip. The width of your pelvis is not involved in the equation. At all. ALSO, some people’s thighs might touch due to musculature or weight distribution instead of pelvic structure. Some people will never have a thigh gap due to their pelvic structure.  There is a ton of variation in HOW PEOPLE HAVE BODIES.


While we’re here, let’s talk about tight vaginas!

There are lots of different ways to have a vagina. Some people have tightness that results in pain and spasmed muscles for a variety of reasons. This can be extremely painful and causes some people a lot of trauma. Many people have their vaginas become more accommodating as their arousal level increases, so increasing “looseness” is often a sign that you’re turning a vagina owner on. Some people increase the strength of their pelvic floor muscles through kegel exercises so that they can squeeze with their vaginas when they want to, as well as increasing their control over orgasm and urinary continence.  Vaginas are incredibly powerful and can stretch and constrict in amazing ways.


If your partner says that you’re “too loose” or otherwise shames your vagina, get rid of them.


Your vagina is amazing.
Your thighs are amazing.


They are amazing if they touch and amazing if they don’t touch.
Also, not all people with vaginas are girls and not all girls have vaginas.


Fuck misinformation and body shame in all forms.  Shaming one type of body is no better than shaming another type of body.

Why do people take a post thats suppose to help girls without thigh gaps feel better and ruin it?

Because you shouldn’t have to shame people about their vaginas to make girls without thigh gaps feel good.
This especially applies in a culture steeped in sexual shame which refuses to talk openly about vaginas and vulvas.

We should own every opportunity to tell people with vaginas the truth about their vaginas because we have been lied to enough.

As I said, thighs are wonderful, without gaps and with. When we shame any sort of body, we perpetuate the idea that bodies should be shameful for their characteristics at all. Your thighs are amazing and your body is amazing.

Putting down other people to make yourself feel better isn’t body positivity; it’s bullying. How is telling someone with a thigh gap that they have a “loose vagina” with misinformation going to add positivity to your life? (Not to mention all the facts about vaginal “looseness” in general)
I absolutely believe that thigh gaps should be inconsequential, but this isn’t how to make positive change.